‘Two of the gifts of age are wisdom and not giving so many f***s’

Bullshit slayer Dixie Laite talks openly about her love of bodybuilding, collecting femorabilia, and managing the seizures that make her “brain broke”.

Memorable moments from Dixie Laite’s life, in her words

What three jumbles are top of mind for you right now?

  1. Menopausal weight gain.
    I’ve identified as a slim, athletic woman for most of my life. So my menopausal weight gain, inability to run anymore, bad knees and back mean all that is behind me. It’s been really hard and I really mourn not only what I did but what I could do. In other words, I’d love to take boxing right now, but my knees and back bar me. And, please, if one more person suggests yoga or swimming — no! I’m totally the boxing, karate, dancing type. Not the stretching, ballet barre, yoga type. My new challenge is to focus on what I can do, not what I can’t. So I stroll for two hours a day, often getting up at 5 am or earlier to beat the heat. I hip-hop dance around at home, and when the quarantine thing is over, I hope to go back to my beloved body-building. ☺

How do you find your flow?

I’m refusing to complain — well, out loud — or surrender. I’m going to get inspired and disciplined and make the most of this last chapter. Sixty isn’t the new 40–60 is just going to be rocking 60!

What are the 50s like for you, and what do you want younger women to know about this decade before they reach 50?

The main thing I wish I’d done differently was love myself. I wish I’d mothered and been a better friend to young(er) Dixie. I’ve wasted so much time, and continue to waste time, feeling ugly and insecure. I’ve wasted so many years, and so many opportunities. Two of the gifts of age are wisdom and not giving so many fucks. The latter has been such a relief and unburdening. The pain of not feeling loved by my family, of worrying what others thought of me, I’m now able to lay most of that burden down. And it feels great.

“The main thing I wish I’d done differently was love myself. I wish I’d mothered and been a better friend to young(er) Dixie.”

I’d tell women to love themselves, don’t obsess about appearance, and to try things. Lots of things. Get rid of toxic relationships and people. And this is big: Find your tribe. Cherish your tribe.

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